He didn't reply to that email until two days later when I asked him why the woman from the abuser programme was phoning me (I couldn't talk, was out with the children) and received this text:
Probably to let you know your husband is one of the best abusers they have seen and that despite still showing abusive traits of criticising, blaming etc he thinks you are a wonderful person.I was obviously thrown off by this, following from previous emails.
He was picking up my eldest in the evening and dropping her home, so I asked him to stay back to talk. I didn't want to talk about this specifically, but our daughter's birthday was the following day and we had to discuss plans/arrangements etc.
I have to be honest at this point and acknowledge that I also wanted to see him. I suddenly missed him loads and wanted to be close to him. I was also hormonal. The hormonal time when you want sex (around ovulation). God, I can't believe I'm being so honest on a blog!! I was totally aware of this by the way.
So he came over in the evening and we talked for three hours. Mainly about birthday arrangements, ongoing problems with the children etc.
Then I laid my cards on the table. I asked him why it's so difficult for him to change if he loves me and lots of other things I can't remember. He said he's sorry, he knows that everything is his fault, he is sorry that he's hurt me and that he knows that after everything that has happened it must make me feel even more hurt to read his abusive email. He apologised for that, said he wrote it in anger (as I could tell due to lack of punctuation) and he doesn't know why he said those mean things because it's not what he thinks at all. He spoke about the programme and various things in the book.
And I believed him. I wanted to be close to him so I hugged him, we kissed, we ended up having sex. :-/